Kindness is a word that can be used to describe so many different things. Kindness gives us purpose.For me, kindness is a way of life and a choice I make every day, in all circumstances. It’s not always easy to do the right thing or say what needs to be said when you’re feeling vulnerable or scared. But kind words and actions are powerful ways we can help each other heal from the wounds inflicted on our bodies and souls by society’s strict hierarchies of power. They also remind us who we are: free beings worthy of love and respect. This blog post will explore why kindness matters for healing ourselves, as well as others around us.
Be kind to yourself
Why is kindness important? Being kind towards yourself. When you practice kindness towards yourself, you accept who you are and love yourself. It means being kind to the people around you, treating them with respect, but it also means understanding that you deserve to be happy and loved just as much as anyone else. You must realize and remind yourself that you are worthy of love. You, just like everyone else in this world, are beautiful and you deserve happiness.
How can you be kinder to yourself?
- Take care of yourself: Start exercising, make healthy food choices, and get enough sleep.
- Avoid self-criticism: Check in with why you’re doing it and why you’re feeling that way. Is it because something kind happened? If not, why do you think it’s happening? It could be a sign that there is something deeper going on or that you need to talk to someone about what’s going on.
- Be accountable for your intentions: Say what you want and respect when someone says no. This means saying “no” when people ask you to do things when you don’t have time or money, or when they ask for more than you feel comfortable giving. Let them know why if they ask why you can’t do it and if they don’t try to understand why then you know that person isn’t worth your time.
- Be kind with your words: Show appreciation for people, instead of complaining about them. Learn how to be more empathic towards others, so you can better understand why they act the way they do and why they might be doing the things they do.
- Don’t compare yourself with others: Everyone is at a different place in life, so why are you trying to be someone else? If you want something, go for it! You might fail sometimes, or it may take longer than you wish it would have. But if getting there makes you happy and fulfilled, why not do it?
- Be generous: Don’t keep everything you have for yourself, why would you want to miss out on the feeling that comes with knowing someone is happy because of something small that you’re doing? If you are kind, people will be kind back. It’s as simple as that.
Be kind to others
As easy as it is to love someone when they’re in the room with us, kindness can be so much more than learning how to say “thank you” or “hello” when someone walks in the room. There are so many different ways you can show kindness in your daily life: through a thoughtful gesture like letting someone in front of you in line at the grocery store, holding a door open for someone, or letting a car merge into traffic when it’s clear. These small acts can accumulate exponentially and make our world a better place.
Take a moment today and reflect on the ways you could make someone’s day a little brighter. Sit with your feelings and figure out what makes you feel happy or excited, and do that act for a person in need! Remember that a part of being kind to people is to recognize that everyone has faults and you shouldn’t hold these faults against them.
How can we show kindness to others?
Sometimes we struggle with being kind to others. But remember, you can lift yourself by lifting others. We rise together to reach our goals. Take a look at the list below to discover different ways that you can be kind and make a positive impact on those around you.
Be patient: It’s okay to get frustrated when things don’t go your way, but kindness means letting that person know why you’re upset and why you want them to do something a certain way. Once they understand why you’re upset, try coming up with a solution together. Sometimes it can be hard for people to see things from our perspective, so presenting it in a way that they can understand why you’re upset is important.
Be compassionate: This means being open to who other people are and what they say. You don’t have to agree with them, but you have to recognize why the person is saying the things they are saying. It might also mean giving people more than one chance to change their behavior and helping them progress during the journey of transformation.
Be empathic: Try putting yourself in other people’s shoes. Try to connect and understand what someone might be going through. If we want to be kinder and more compassionate people, we need to realize why someone is acting in a certain way. If you think about why they might feel the way they do, you can better understand why they’re acting that way.
Be honest: Sometimes it hurts people’s feelings if we try to sugarcoat our words or not be direct with them. But being kind means telling the truth–even when you don’t want to. You might get in trouble, but it’s better than offending someone or hiding the truth from them.
Be sincere: This means not just telling people what they want to hear, but meaning why you’re saying it. Don’t tell someone “I’m fine” if you’re not feeling well just to try and avoid a conversation. Be honest with them about why you can’t talk or why you want to be left alone.
Respect boundaries: If someone doesn’t want to be around you, why would you keep trying to make them? When in doubt, check-in with the other person. Ask what they need and let them know that you’re there if they need anything else. Remember that respect goes both ways!
Be non-judgmental: You don’t have to agree with why people are saying the things they do, but you should respect what they are saying. If you understand why they are saying these things, you can be there for them better and support why they feel this way.
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes: We all make mistakes and you shouldn’t be afraid of making them because it helps us learn why they’re wrong or why we should do things differently next time. Try not to judge yourself when you mess up, instead try to come up with solutions.
Don’t take things personally: Learn why people say the things they do and why they do certain things. People might not always be saying what you want to hear, but it’s one way of showing that you care enough about them to understand why they’re saying something.
Be proactive: Know how to change your behavior and let other people know why you’re changing. It’s okay to change your mind about things or why you did something if you realize why it wasn’t the right thing to do.
Be helpful: Offer help to people. You don’t have to be a superhero, but you can help change the world by helping others. There are things we all need and sometimes it’s nice if someone offers to lend us a hand when we need it!
Don’t be afraid to say no, but do it with kindness: Sometimes people are being nice when they ask us to do things, but why would we want to spend all of our time with people who make us feel like we can’t say no? If you don’t want to do something, why not let the person know why it’s important for you to make your own choices sometimes.
Be generous: Kindness means going the extra mile to help your friends. It’s a way of showing why you care and why you’re there for them. Be willing to give your friends a little extra time or emotional support where needed.
Be encouraging: Encouragement can mean offering help or support where needed. If you know why a person did a good job or why they might have been nervous, give them a little boost of confidence by letting them know why they should feel proud.
Be grateful: Gratitude can mean saying thank you when someone does something for you or even a simple smile in the morning. Be thankful for every positive thing that happens in your life and even situations that don’t go your way. Look at the silver lining. There are always lessons to be learned.
Check-in with your friends
Life gets busy and it’s easy to go months without talking to your best friends. It’s important to stay in contact with your friends because you never know when they might need you. And if they don’t pick up their phone? You can send them a message telling them that you are there for them. Even something as simple as telling someone why you care about them can mean the world to them.
Be kinder to the Earth
When you’re feeling overwhelmed by society’s ills, it can be easy to lose sight of why we fight for the earth and why need to care about our planet. But environmental activism is essentially an extension of kindness: we want everyone to be able to live in harmony. By doing your part and fighting for a better future, you’re showing the world that there is more to life than living every day like the last one, and you’re also making sure that everyone in your town has clean air to breathe. It’s as easy as walking or biking instead of driving when possible, turning off your lights in empty rooms, recycling when you can, and always picking up after yourself wherever you are. Kindness comes in all shapes and forms, why not show the Earth some?
Open your heart
Kindness is something that comes from within. To be kind to others, you must first be kind to yourself. And to be kind to yourself, you must accept yourself and be happy with who you are.
Self-acceptance means working towards accepting your body, any addictions, or predispositions. It means working towards loving who you are, faults and all. It means being kind to yourself when you make mistakes or say no to things, because why not? You’re only human.
Kindness is an action
Kindness is an action that starts with why you care, why you love, why you hope, why you feel. When the why is strong enough, it flows out to everyone around you. Start with cultivating kindness within yourself. When you are kind to yourself, you will naturally be kind to others.
In this day and age, why not take a little time to show some kindness. Kindness can mean anything from volunteering to do the dishes or writing a kind note. It doesn’t have to be something that costs money or takes hours of your time: it’s as simple as smiling at people more often, complimenting your friends, or just doing something that you wouldn’t normally do. Kindness will brighten your life.
So why not be kind today? You can simply start by saying thank you or giving a simple compliment. It doesn’t take much effort, but it makes a world of difference.